Why are We so Mean to Each Other? And a recipe to boot: Mexican spiced beef, kale and plantain casserole.
Okay so I have a question. And its probably going to turn into a rant. So this is your warning. If you are not interested skip down the the recipe. Don't skip the recipe though, cause it is DELISH. And full of all my favourite things.
So here it goes. Why are we so mean to each other? The we in this case, that I am referring to, is women. I am sure men have issues to, but I am not a man. I have zero insight. But I am a women, and I follow women on social media, and I have female friends and I just don't get it. Why don't we support each other and promote a society where all women feel safe, loved and good enough? I think we are good at supporting our closest friends in person, but when it comes to the message we send out to the world it all changes.
What I am really upset about is these pictures people post all over social media, flexing. Literally I see so many everyday. I am un-following most of these accounts...Like in a sports bra flexing your guns, or tugging your pants down to show off your abs, or sticking your booty out. You know these, perfect light, gym or bathroom mirror selfies, or even pictures taken by other people. Then the tags are all like #girlswholift #fitgirls #youcanlooklikethistoo #workhard #gains etc. etc. etc. You know what I am talking about. What does this really accomplish? Do you feel good about yourself by making other people feel bad? I know that might not be anyone's goal. And I know that maybe feeling bad is my issue, but I doubt it is just me. I don't know many women who are 100% secure in their bodies, and who don't fall into the comparison trap, myself included! Maybe I do work hard. Maybe I do lift weights, but maybe my bodies set point is just heavier than yours. Plus we have no idea what is going on behind the scene for that women in the picture. Does she have her period and healthy hormones? Does she eat enough food? Does she secretly hate herself? Is she really happy? None of this is fair. None of this creates a society where women respect each other for what they are worth not their bodies. None of this creates a society of women who support each other. None of this creates a society of women who feel good enough. We can feel empowered in other ways. By our accomplishments, or the people in our lives, or the lives we change, why does it have to be about our bodies? I guess some people consider their bodies an accomplishment? But that is just so sad. We have so much more to offer than perfect abs. Furthermore as women I honestly don't think we should be adding to it. We should be creating and fostering a space where we all feel like enough, not creating a competitive and catty space.
I know I sound really judgmental right now, and I am sorry. I have been that person who posts progress pictures and flexing selfies, and bikini pictures because they get likes. In fact I am sure I still have some on my instagram. So I am just as guilty. I have been thinking about it a lot lately, because it does not cultivate the community I think we want and crave. I think we all want to feel like we are enough, and like our bodies are not the only thing that matters. Yet the world around us tells us that really our bodies are all that matters. If you get double the likes on an ab picture over a wonderful recipe you created, you are getting the feedback than unless you post those abs you are just not good enough. It just makes me angry. I don't know what to do about it.
I know that when I posted those selfies I spent time making sure I was in the right light, the right angle, the right everything to make sure the picture was as flattering as possible. That is not real. And I know I posted them because I felt shitty about myself and wanted some positive reinforcement. That is not healthy. We are raising a new generation of girls in this world. Think about what we want for them. Not this! Let's be better. Let's support each other because we are amazing individuals not because of our physical attributes. Screw abs, I don't want them anyways. I guarantee it wouldn't be enough. Instead I want to be enough exactly the way I am.
End. of. Rant. Thanks for sticking with me. In return I have a casserole for you. I am all about the casseroles in the winter. They are easy, and they just feel warm and luxurious. Plus they are convenient. You get your protein, veggies and starch in one easy bite.
I will call this a Mexican spiced beef, kale and plantain casserole.
- 2 ripe plantains (with black splotches)
- 1/4 cup of ghee plus 1 tsp
- 1 tsp salt
- 2 tsps fat
- 1 onion
- 1 jalapeno diced into small pieces
- 2 sweet peppers diced
- 1/2 tsp salt
- 1/2 tsp chili powder
- 1/2 tsp paprika
- 1/2 tsp garlic powder
- 1/2 tsp onion flakes
- 1 lb ground beef
- 1/4 cup Salsa
- 1/2 cup BBQ sauce - recipe on the blog
- 1 head of finely chopped kale
- 1/2 cup shredded cheese (you can totally leave this off, or use an alternative) - I did use real, grass fed mozzarella from a local farm
- Garnishes: cilantro and green onions
- Preheat oven to 400
- Line a baking dish with parchment and rub the parchment with 1 tsp ghee
- Peel and quarter the plantains, put them in a food processor or high powered blender with the 1/4 cup of ghee. Blend until smooth.
- Smooth this plantain mixture out in the prepared baking dish, sprinkle with salt
- Bake for 25 mins - the plantains will start to brown around the edges and will be firm to the touch
- Meanwhile prepare the filling
- Melt half the fat in a pan and add the onion, once soft add in the diced jalapeno, sweet peppers and spices
- When the peppers are soft add in the beef
- Once the beef is browned remove from heat and add in the salsa and bbq sauce, stir to combine.
- In a separate skillet melt another tsp of fat - add the finely chopped kale and saute until cooked, about 5 mins
- Once the crust is done, you can assemble.
- Put the kale on top of the crust, then add the beef mixture, top with the shredded cheese
- Bake for 30 mins and garnish as desired!